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Top 50 Ways to Make Someone’s Monday
Posted by: Scott Stratten
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I need your help! Currently there are 44 for this “Top 50 list”, please add yours to the comment section. You’re awesome! The following list is about simple, painless ways to be a Daymaker for different people. Feel free to submit more in the comment section.
- A Stranger
- Smile as you walk past - A smile is so rare nowadays, it may actually stun the person and have them asking “Did I know that person?” I still think it’s worth the risk
- Hold the elevator - Bonus points if the person is with children, or has their hands full
- Smile as you drive past - People think this is weird, yet have no problem staring blankly at other people in cars instead. Stop it, you look awkward
- Say thank-you - Regardless if it’s someone who holds the door for you, brings you a meal or let’s you take a parking space, a “thank-you” can be the two words that changes their day
- Say please - It’s something we always ask our children to say, yet think we get an exemption as adults
- Say “excuse me” when you walk between them and something they’re looking at - This isn’t the “excuse me” to get someone to move out of your way, but said when breaking someone’s view. Falls under common courtesy, but it ain’t so common.
- Put a quarter in their expired meter - The person may never know you did it, but it can be the little nudge that changes their day
- Give them a compliment - Especially if someone just got their hair done, this could not only make their day, but their entire week!
- Allow them to pull in front of you on the road - When people are merging, why not be that person to alleviate that high-stress moment for someone else instead of being possessive of “your lane”
- Pay for the person behind you at the coffee drive-thru - I’ve seen MULTIPLE NEWS STORIES about people who do this. NEWS STORIES?!?! Random acts of kindness are so rare that they are newsworthy these days… so be a star
- Say “hi, how are you” as you walk past - your stranger will either love it or it will totally freak him/her out (Thanks Mark)
- Buy flowers at your grocery store and give them to the cashier on the way out (Thanks Scott)
- Your Parents
- Call them to apologize for when you were a brat (especially if you have kids) - Come on, tell me I wasn’t the only one that looks back and says “I can’t believe I was like that”
- Give them a coupon for a day of your time to do anything around the house -The gift of your time is one of the greatest gifts of all and no need for a gift receipt
- Say thank-you for how they raised you - Everything I learned when I was growing up has allowed me the success I have today. Give credit where it’s due
- Call them, just to say hi - Don’t ask for babysitting, or money or a favour. Call to see how they’re doing
- Put an ad in the announcement section of the paper, awarding them parent of the year - This would also get you nominated for son/daughter of the year. Win/Win!!!
- Your Significant Other
- Smile every time you see them
- Ask them how they are, while looking in their eyes
- Give a hug, for no reason
- Give them flowers, for no reason
- put a post-it note on the bathroom mirror, just to say I love you
- Do a chore they’d normally do, without asking
- Hold their hand
- Tell them you love them, even though you assume they already know
- Take an interest in their work
- Do something spontaneous that you’d both enjoy
- A Child
- Pay attention to what they’re saying by looking them in the eye
- Praise them for the smallest achievement
- Eat ice cream for dinner
- Wave at kids in cars
- Sit on the floor and play at their level
- Pick a weekly play date where it’s all about them
- Tell them they’re special
- Award them son/daughter of the year, and let them pick out their reward at the toy store
- Teach them the Chicken Dance
- Play dress-up
- Say these exact words to them: “I am proud of you”
- Send them a postcard or greeting card in the mail and tell them something funny. “I do this to my nieces all the time and they love feeling “grown up” because they get mail.” (Thanks Melanie)
- A Co-Worker
- Tell them they’re doing a good job
- Tell their boss that they’re doing a good job (Thanks Biana)
- Leave a post-it note on their desk to thank them for something they did
- Brew a fresh pot of coffee, even when a little is left at the bottom
- Hold the door for them
- Speak highly of them when they’re not around
- Take them out for lunch and don’t expense it
- Give flowers to the receptionist
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119 Responses to “Top 50 Ways to Make Someone’s Monday (Need a few more!)”
Mark David Gerson Says:
June 30th, 2008 at 1:04 am
A Stranger: Say “hi, how are you” as you walk past (your stranger will either love it or it will totally freak him/her out)
Some years back, when I moved back to the big city (where no one looks at you) after several years in rural communities (where strangers not only greeted each other but waved as they passed each other in their cars), I continued saying hi to strangers. Some smiled and said “hi” back; others looked down and sped up!
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Scott Walkinshaw Says:
June 30th, 2008 at 7:47 am
Stranger - Buy flowers at your grocery store and give them to the cashier on the way out.
Parents - Leave them a voicemail singing your favourite childhood song
Children (young)- bring them to the dollar store and give them $20 to spend as they like
Peggie Arvidson Says:
June 30th, 2008 at 9:07 am
Teenager with fairly new driver’s license: Ask them if they want to drive on your next outing. And then keep your mouth shut.
Biana Babinsky Says:
June 30th, 2008 at 9:32 am
Here is one for a Co-Worker: Tell their boss that the co-worker is doing a good job.
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Mr. Twenty Twenty Says:
June 30th, 2008 at 9:34 am
Hey mate,
Nice list.
How about adding in:
“Just be YOU!”
If you can be comfortable being YOU, you are inviting them to be comfortable being them.
Imagine how that would transform lives, improve incomes, and transforms marriages!
Have a great day!
Mr. Twenty Twenty
http://www.2020motivation.com
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Mark David Gerson Says:
June 30th, 2008 at 9:35 am
New category for friends…
Take him/her out for dinner…for no reason.
Mark David Gersons last blog post..The Word, According to Humpty Dumpty
Denise O'Berry Says:
June 30th, 2008 at 10:46 am
Great list Scott! Here are three more…
- Allow the other driver to have the parking place you are both competing for.
- Smile and say thanks to the TSA folks at the airport.
- When there’s an unpleasant task that no one wants to do (at home or work), volunteer for it.
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Melanie Benson Strick Says:
June 30th, 2008 at 12:02 pm
A child:
Send them a postcard or greeting card in the mail and tell them something funny. (I do this to my nieces all the time and they love feeling “grown up” because they get mail.)
A co-worker or team member:
Forward a compliment that someone else shared with you about them.
Send them a box of chocolates or cookies just because they rock!
Adam Urbanski Says:
June 30th, 2008 at 7:20 pm
Scott, that’s for getting this started! Here is my short list. These ideas may not be revolutionary but they are easy to do every day and they work for everyone…
1) Just smile at people - this one does magic!
2) Really listen when people talk to me and ask a thought-provoking or clarifying question - this one multiplies the magic of smiling 
3) Talk well about others when you don’t think it will get back to them. Somehow, sooner or later it always does.
4) Pay for the food of the strangers in the car behind you in the fast food drive-through. I’m sure it makes their day, but it also helps me remember to be grateful for having the ability to so, and it never fails to start really interesting converstations about abundance mindset when my daughters are with me when I do it.
5) Say YES to someone’s simple request for a small favour or when a child asks for a permission to do something - especially when they really expect you to say NO.
Smiles,
Adam
Karl Edwards Says:
July 1st, 2008 at 10:45 am
Tell someone they’re your hero.
Tell a co-worker that you couldn’t have done it (whatever “it” might be) without them.
Thank someone in a service role for going the extra mile.
20somethingirl Says:
July 1st, 2008 at 10:51 am
Love it! will definitely be passing along to the BF because everyone needs a little reminding once in a while.
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Tina Cook Says:
July 1st, 2008 at 11:15 am
Your significant other - run a hot bath for them with their favourite bubble bath, light a candle and sit and chat together.
Send all your friends a text message thanking them for being a part of your life and telling them how you value their friendship.
Phone your service provider and thank them spontaneously for their great service, for example, your hairdresser for giving you a great cut.
Faith Seekings Says:
July 1st, 2008 at 5:45 pm
Send an eCard to your sweetie at work in the middle of the day to say you miss them.
Tara Michel Says:
July 1st, 2008 at 10:37 pm
Hey Scott,
Congrats on your success!
Here are a few to consider for your list:
-Wake your significant other up with a kiss and a hug. As time goes by, those little displays of affection tend to be forgotten.
-Let your child pick the dinner menu, and help you prepare it. They will feel very grown up being the ‘chef’.
-Go out of your way to compliment/thank a co-worker. Be specific about the compliment, and it will be more meaningful.
-Add a note in your child’s lunch (or spouse’s) to say ‘I love you!’
-Whistle or sing! It’s amazing how hearing a familiar song brightens your day.
Dawn Says:
July 1st, 2008 at 11:42 pm
For your significant other.. as a military wife I’ve learned that you always have to let them know that you support them in every way and all of their decisions.. that you’re thankful for everything they do for you.. and that you think of them all the time even when they’re not around.
Chris Doucher Says:
July 2nd, 2008 at 3:21 pm
Another way to make someone’s Monday (or any other day for that matter). It may sound cliché but I believe in it:
Be true to yourself and others will be true to you. (essentially follow your instincts and if you feel it’s right, trust yourself to stick to that decision or stay on that path and others will respect you for it in the end).
Cheers,
Chris
Eileen Says:
July 2nd, 2008 at 6:25 pm
Strangers: Say:”Good Morning”! and smile as you do…watch their expressions change.
Your Parents: Teach your children to call them just to say hello and tell them about their day.
Your Significant Other: Buy tickets and attend a game/event with an open mind…even if you’re not a fan.
Child: Go Play in the puddles with your children…they’re right, it IS fun!
Cali & Jody Says:
July 2nd, 2008 at 11:35 pm
Hey Scott -
Great list! Here are a couple we can think of:
Significant other: propose an anniversary date at an odd time - your 7-years-21-days anniversary or your 29-years-3-months-4-days anniversary
Teacher: if it’s a current teacher, tell them how much you appreciate everything you’re learning. If you’re all grown up, write your favourite teacher a letter. Not only will they love to hear what you’re up to, but they’ll be so proud to know that they played such a big role in your life.
Children (if you have multiple): set aside time for each child. when you’re with each one, make it all about them with no distractions. let them make the decisions about what you do (within reason!).
Trudi Says:
July 3rd, 2008 at 10:13 am
I love this!!
Another good one is Stranger: let the person behind you at the grocery store cash register line-up ahead of you when you have a full cart and they just have a few items.
Actually - just treat people as you would like to be treated. That way the love of God shines through!!
Brandi Jeanne Says:
July 3rd, 2008 at 10:25 am
Stranger - When driving… let the person at the cross walk or the person on the side of the road waiting to cross let them cross the street… let the car out that has been sitting there for a while waiting to turn…
Children - have them help you make dinner or set the table. My daughter is 2 and loves to help. Turn the radio on and dance with them. Go to the playground and go down the slide with them… over and over…
Significant other - he makes the dinner, you do the dishes… and vice versa. Or when he/she is washing the dishes go over and rinse for them.
Barbara Says:
July 3rd, 2008 at 10:25 am
A Stranger who is a senior
Grocery Store Kiosks…raffle tickets, cookies, cakes, poppies, etc. Buy one on the way out and give it the first senior you see and watch them
smile. RAOK
Random Acts of Kindness
Rhonda Says:
July 3rd, 2008 at 10:25 am
stranger - pay the toll for the car behind you. Just a random act of kindness!!
Shari Says:
July 3rd, 2008 at 10:27 am
Start “Thank you Thursday” - every Thursday write (yes, with a pen and paper) a thank you note to someone who made your life a little better - could be the paper delivery guy, could be your dentist, could be your kid, anyone who made your life a little better in any way.
Joan in Maine Says:
July 3rd, 2008 at 10:31 am
Spouse:
Put a fresh bath towel in the dryer as he or she gets into the shower. Take it out as the shower ends for a nice warm and fuzzy feeling!
Joan in Maine
Angela in Kansas City Missouri Says:
July 3rd, 2008 at 10:37 am
Go that extra mile….
Karen Says:
July 3rd, 2008 at 10:41 am
Child or yound teen - sit up close to them on the couch and watch THEIR show. Don’t get up until the show is over.
Spouse - buy their favourite desert ‘just because.’
Elizabeth Says:
July 3rd, 2008 at 10:42 am
“A child and a Stranger”
Give up your seat on the bus, for an elderly, or pregnant women.
When I was a child I would always give up my seat for an elderly or pregnant women when they come on the bus.
FRED Says:
July 3rd, 2008 at 10:42 am
WHEN SOMEONE ASKS YOU HOW ARE YOU TODAY. TELL THEM UNBELIEVABLE. FOR IT IS ALWAYS GOOD
Maggie Says:
July 3rd, 2008 at 10:48 am
A little mystery goes a long way….”I dreamt about you last night…” and then smile.
Shelagh Says:
July 3rd, 2008 at 10:49 am
1) Invite people/co-workers/friends to lunch, even if not everyone knows everyone else. (You can still pay your own way - it’s the invitation that counts).
2) Bring baking or TimBits with you - to the office or any gathering - but don’t announce who they’re from!
3) Send them this list of ways to brighten someone’s day. It brightened mine, and now I’m ready to spread the joy! Even on this rainy, dreary day. (Hmm… puddle-jumping you say?)
Susanne Gleason Says:
July 3rd, 2008 at 11:07 am
I love these comments I just read and I was so proud of myself because ( not bragging ) I do 90% of all those already, that alone makes me feel very good. When you are in the grocery store and you see a person in one of those mechanical seats
and they are looking at something they cannot reach, ask if you might get the item for them. I must say this is the first time I have read this
site and ‘Gee’, I have missed so much !
Susanne Gleason Says:
July 3rd, 2008 at 11:08 am
I already did !
Kristi "Song" Says:
July 3rd, 2008 at 11:16 am
A local radio station has been running occasional specials called “Pay it Forward”… the concept is easy.. we print off a nice message, go to a drive through of some sort, pay for the person’s meal, coffee etc. behind you, and leave them a nice card or message. It is all anonymous…and all beautiful!
Blessings
Song
Regina Says:
July 3rd, 2008 at 11:16 am
Send your parent flowers on your birthday - and thank them for your life. I sent my parents 21 miniature roses on my 21st birthday. It made their day!
Brandy Elliott Says:
July 3rd, 2008 at 11:17 am
1. With strangers - Simply put, *be kind*…you never know what someone is going through in their life, and a simple kind act, word or gesture can have an enormous effect on people.
2. With children - Make a goofy face and then smile…for me it’s never failed to invite a smile from a child yet!
3. With a spouse - Help, even if you aren’t asked…actually, *especially* if you aren’t asked!
4. With a co-worker - Avoid gossiping, and compliment your co-workers.
All in all, adopting and attitude of gratitude. Your thoughts become your reality…may your thoughts have confidence, emulate graciousness, and envelop love.
Always pay it forward!!
Shawna Says:
July 3rd, 2008 at 11:19 am
Significant Other and/or Child –
“Always kiss them goodnight” Leave a fun note in their lunch box/coat pocket for them to find later.
Write “I love you in the steam on the mirror for them to find when THEY shower”
Coworker - Replenish the candy bowl on the department secretary’s desk that SHE always stocks!
Barbara Says:
July 3rd, 2008 at 11:23 am
When you are coming from your work parking lot and see someone coming into the same building with their hands full offer to carry something for them and get the door. It does not matter if they are a man or a woman we are all in this together :0)
Krishna Kalra Says:
July 3rd, 2008 at 11:24 am
Take care of your parents and not place them in rotting nursing homes.
Kathy Sullivan Says:
July 3rd, 2008 at 11:26 am
RE: co-workers - say something nice, brag on them to the boss when they ARE around. It lets them know, in a public way, how much you appreciate them.
Also for co-workers - pick up a dozen donuts, a tray of cookies, a bowl of fruit, on the way in and share it with the office. Sharing like this on a non-holiday lets them know you think of them.
Tom Holmes Says:
July 3rd, 2008 at 11:26 am
When panhandlers solicit me for money “for food” here in NYC, I offer to take them for something to eat (but not give cash). Recently I accompanied this hungry out-of-work man into a deli where he asked if, in addition to the sandwich he wanted and the drink and extras I offered to include if he could have a chocolate. I of course said yes. When we got out on the sidewalk he beamed and said with such childish enthusiasm that it brought tears…..”thanks mister, you helped me tremendous”.
Tyann Gilbert Says:
July 3rd, 2008 at 11:27 am
Stranger - Pay for the person’s food at the drive thru that is behind you.
Mina Says:
July 3rd, 2008 at 11:28 am
Most workplaces have “Casual Fridays” for a donation to a charity. If you’re a Manager or Supervisor, have a “Casual Monday”, no donation required.
Again, most people bring treats to work on a Friday and share them with their colleagues. Bring them on a Monday instead!
Katie Says:
July 3rd, 2008 at 11:32 am
A Child: 1) Sing him/her awake in the morning. “Good morning to you! Good morning to you! We’re all in our places, with bright shiny faces. Good morning to you!” Or some other short, silly song. Have a big smile on your face.
A Teenager: 2) Let them tell you something without any judgment, lessons or stories from you. Just listen. Then smile and say “I love you.” Mean it.
3) When they’re in bed but before they’re asleep, tiptoe in and softly sing a bedtime lullaby you used to sing when they were tiny. If they sit up and say, “What the…?!” you respond, “Hi, honey. I still love you, and always will.”
Child any age: 4) Watch the news together, and talk about it. Or watch John Stewart’s “The Daily Show” and talk (and laugh) together about it. 5) Give a back scratch!
Parents: if you don’t normally do so, stop by and visit one more time (besides a regularly scheduled holiday visit), just to say “I love you.”
Your Partner: 1) (see Teenager above, about listening). 2) Give a back scratch. 3) Hold the door for each other, say thank you. 4) Ask him/her to tell you about a favourite or funny incident or best friend from childhood. 5) “If you had all the money in the world and had to design the best vacation resort or theme park, what would it have in it? Invent anything.” (these stories make them smile - good for kids, too)
Anyone: 1) Remind them “Isn’t it just a GLORIOUS day today?” If they dispute it, respond “Hey! We’re still breathing! This is a FANTASTIC day!” 2) Hold the door for someone. Always.
3) Put your pocketful of pennies in the little dish at the checkout stand. 4) Homeless people on the street? If I’ve been shopping for groceries or fast-food, I give them something from my bag. Maybe they’d prefer money, but they usually appreciate the thought (and probably the food).
4) Look people in the eye and say “You have a great day today!” Mean it.
5) Really listen. Don’t silently plan what you’re going to say next; just listen. Be there 100% for that person. They’ll feel it.
Randy Staub Says:
July 3rd, 2008 at 11:38 am
Ask anyone, “What accomplishment in your life are you most proud of?”. If they stop to reflect on it, you’ll notice their whole appearance change.
Susan Azar Says:
July 3rd, 2008 at 11:40 am
Hi Scott,
Once again, you’re inspiring us all to be better people and create a more peaceful world, kudos to you!
Here are a few of my ideas to brighten someoe’s day:
Friend/Co-worker - Pack a picnic lunch (when you know the weather will be nice) and take them to a park and enjoy it together. Leave your cell phone at work so you can really talk to each other without all of the distractions we’re so used to these days.
Elderly - If they have a dog, offer to walk it for them, or better walk ….. go for a walk with them.
Strangers - I live on an Island and have to take a ferry to get there, I sometimes pay for the person behind me in line. So many times that person has come and found me during the ferry ride and told me how that small act really changed their day. I’ve even had them offer to pay me back, and I just reply “don’t pay me back, do it for someone else sometime.” Guaranteed to get a smile!
I think it’s important to remember just how contagious positive energy is, you don’t always see the effect of the act of kindness you’ve performed, but one act can potentially spread over the entire globe encouraging more people to act with love and kindness towards each other. That’s something that’s definitely worth spreading!
Thanks again,
Susan
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Tracy Says:
July 3rd, 2008 at 11:40 am
Take a walk with a family member or friend. Having uninterrupted time sparks great conversations!
Hold hands with your kids, while they’ll let you.
When you’re doing something sincere or heartfelt, look people in the eyes.
Hold hands, place your hand on their cheek, or place your hand on their forehead for someone who is sick - then look into their eyes - this provides great the comfort of compassion.
Learn something new everyday - even if it’s very simple and only takes a minute. You never know when you’ll need the knowledge and it keeps your mind active.
Find something to laugh about everyday - it has positive mental and physical health benefits.
Claire De Lucchi Says:
July 3rd, 2008 at 11:42 am
Get up 5 minutes earlier than your spouse or partner and wake them up with a hot cup of coffee or tea brought to their bedside…
Michael McCormack Says:
July 3rd, 2008 at 11:45 am
Quietly pay the bill at the lunch counter for someone elderly.
Helena Lauriala Says:
July 3rd, 2008 at 11:51 am
Spend a silent moment seeing the northern summer around, take your supplements and be aware that you´ll at least 5 days to help people you meet and are looking for to help the ways you know and shall find out. Be strong, aware and alert to help.
Louise Rhyne Says:
July 3rd, 2008 at 11:54 am
When you see someone who looks sad put your hand on their shoulder and say God Bless You. Remember to pray for them when you think of them.
Beverlly Moore Says:
July 3rd, 2008 at 11:55 am
Since starting my own business 9 years ago helping families caring for someone with Alzheimer’s Mondays are my favourite day. Now with Alzheimer coaches doing the visits I’m the idea person. My goal is to train, affirm, and support them as they do this important work. So, when I think of a good thing they’ve done or a great satisfaction report from a family, I email or call them with this affirmation. None of us gets enough of positive affirmation. I know I thrive on it. So does everyone else.
Beverly Moore of Quincy, MA
Chuck Greenland Says:
July 3rd, 2008 at 11:56 am
Under co-worker: Tell your boss he’s doing a good job.
Sylvie Hanes Says:
July 3rd, 2008 at 11:57 am
for family members (parents, brother/sister, aunts/uncles) - send them a card with a message highlighting something they did that left a positive thought in your mind… and let them know that even if it happened years ago, you still think about it and it was important to you - and thank them for it!
Write a note to your boss, old boss, coworker stating something they did that made you a better team player… this is a good thing to do on a really bad office day! brightens up anyone’s day!
Leave a note to your mail delivery person thanking them for doing a great job!
Mow your neighbor’s lawn - just because…
Bring a potted plant to your neighbor - just because…
It’s summer time - share your garden crop with others - - even the soup kitchen will appreciate 15 pounds of cucumbers! (those who have planted cucumbers know what I mean!!!!)
Send a note to your family doctor thanking him or her for keeping you and your family in good health! (especially now with the shortage of doctors)
If you take public transportation, bring the driver a coffee - or cold water bottle on a hot day!
Take a pitcher of lemonade to the local construction team.
Go through the family toys, and pick out some items that you can donate to the local hospital, hospice, shelters.
Bring all your recent read magazines to the doctor’s office - I’ve seen old copies of reader’s digest as old as me! they need new stock!
Tracy Says:
July 3rd, 2008 at 11:59 am
Leave a song on their voicemail that reminds you of them, a song that has meaning to the both of you.
Renee Canali Says:
July 3rd, 2008 at 12:02 pm
For anyone on any day:
-Find something to be truly grateful for and share it (You have a bright smile! or my favourite in any store or workplace-I am glad you came to work today!)
visit http://www.virtualgratitudeparty.blogspot.com
-Ask someone what they think and be open to what they say.
-Yield to the wishes of others for one day:let your co-worker choose the lunch spot, your mate choose what TV show to watch, have your kids
choose a before bed activity, let EVERYONE in a hurry get in front of you with total abandon.
-Teens: Offer a sincere compliment while looking them in the eye.
- Do the opposite of any negative feeling such as giving away money when you feel “broke”, recognize someone else’s contribution to a project when you feel unrecognized,if your down make someone else’s day. You get what you give!
Nora Says:
July 3rd, 2008 at 12:12 pm
Scott - Thanks for your words that inspire us to be better people. The world would be so much better if we all were kind ot one another.
Co-worker : Always lend a hand with work because once it is done, we can all relax and maybe have a few extra minutes for lunch or coffe or just to relax.
Children : NEVER skip cuddle/reading time before bedtime and during the day. They grow so fast and these moments let them know they are special. They won’t forget it.
Always let them know they can talk to you no matter what and you will not judge them, instead you will help them sort out their problem together. They will talk to you more when they grow older !
Never say no to hugs and kisses !
Spouse : Always say you love them and show affection. Everyone wants to feel wanted and loved.
Child and Spouse and Parents : Thank them for being themselves and tell them that you love them just for being themselves. Everyone likes to be loved just as they are.
Parents - Send an email to say thanks for helping you become a good person and for being good mentors.
Tina Says:
July 3rd, 2008 at 12:23 pm
If you have good freinds with children offer to take the children out for pizza, a movie, an afternoon at the park or for ice cream. Your freinds will appreciate the alone time and the kids will love the treat.
Judy Washburn Says:
July 3rd, 2008 at 12:26 pm
Neighbor:
If I am on my way to the grocery or something like that, I will call a neighbour or a senior citizen, and ask if they need something from the store. We live 10 miles out in the country.
Children:
Also when I have my younger grandchildren, we read a book, play together, lie in the grass and make things out of the clouds, put on some music and be silly, we love doing this on a long drive, talk to them about my childhood and compare it with thiers. Somethings simply amaze them.
Co-workers:
Bake a cake or cookies and surprise them.
Elderly:
Offer to go to the post office, grocery, do something around the house they find hard to do, like windows, weed thier flowers, bring the mail to them when they are sick, surprise them with a meal and dessert.
Strangers:
Pick up something for them they dropped, open a door, when in line and their children are unruly, make faces at them, if someone has an item or two, let them go ahead of you, by the time you gets yours out of the cart, they are done anyways.
Parents:
Just call and say “I love you”. They are gone way to fast. Surprise them with a home cooked meal, better yet take them out to thier favourite resturant. Do thier laundry or a job in the house they dread doing, help make out the bills, take out the trash. Little things will put a smile on thier face you won’t forget. I miss both my parents. Just show them you love them!
Friends:
Call someone you haven’t talk to in awhile, let them know you have missed them.
Gracie Pollyinski Says:
July 3rd, 2008 at 12:33 pm
I heard this from the late Dr. Leo Busgalia:
Drop a handful of change somewhere where little children regularly play, like at the swings in a playground or under a tree.- Doing this would certainly brighten my day.
Send a Valentine card to a significant other on a dreary morning in November
Sharonn Says:
July 3rd, 2008 at 12:34 pm
Laugh out loud daily!
Dream BIG! Doubt little.
Say a prayer!
Surround yourself with positive people!
Give stress the day off.
Say You’re Welcome!
Have a great day!
ETHEL Says:
July 3rd, 2008 at 12:40 pm
SCOTTT. THIS LIST MADE MY DAY. I DIDN’T REALIZE THAT I DO 9O% OF THEM. I WAS REALLY AMAZED WITH MYSELF. I HAVE A FEW THINGS TO ADD TO LIST.
WHEN SOMEONE YOU KNOW OR EVEN A STRANGER SNEEZES I ALWAYS SAY EITHER “GOD BLESS YOU” OR “BLESS yOU” MOST OF THE TIME THE PERSON IS SURPRISED AND SMILE AND SAY “THANK YOU”
AS AN ELDERLY PERSON THERE ARE CERTAIN THINGS AROUND THE HOUSE I AM UNABLE TO DO SUCH AS LIFTING HEAVY ITEMS,REACHING HIGH SHELVES AND EVEN NEED HELP GOING DOWN STAIRS. I ASK ONE OF MY TEENAGER GRANDCHILDREN AND THEY ARE ALWAYS WILLING TO HELP. I ALWAYS THANK THEM AND SAY “I LOVE YOU MORE EACH DAY”IPRAY MY CHILDREN NEVER EVEN THINK ABOUT PUTTING ME IN A NURSING HOME.
KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK SCOTT I ALWAYS LOOK FOWARD TO IT. GOD BLESS YOU.
Monica Ricci Says:
July 3rd, 2008 at 12:42 pm
Grace, I loved Leo Buscaglia too.
Here’s a few for strangers:
~Pay the toll for the car behind you when going through a toll booth.
~If you have great service from your cell phone provider like I do, next time you’re on the phone with them checking your rate plan or whatever, be sure to RAVE about how great their service always is. I use T-Mobile and I do this EVERY time I call because their service rocks.
~ When you are heading to the grocery store from your car, offer to take someone’s shopping cart back to the curb for them.
~Monica
ULA Says:
July 3rd, 2008 at 12:44 pm
siblings:
send them e-greeting cards on their birthdays even if you are living in the same house
Steven Scheeler Says:
July 3rd, 2008 at 12:47 pm
Stranger
If someone did a great job, tell them.
Example store clerk,cashier,bager,fast food chain etc etc…….
Davina Says:
July 3rd, 2008 at 1:04 pm
Hi,
When talking with anyone, really listen to them DON’T spend the time thinking about what you are going to say next with a glazed look in your eye make eye contact and nod encouragingly but try not to interrupt at all.
It’s amazing how great this makes people feel. So I’ve started to really, REALLY listen and it’s amazing how people start to open up and really shine while they’re talking to me
Laura Whelpley Says:
July 3rd, 2008 at 1:12 pm
Stranger: Buy a cup of coffee for the next person in line…you don’t even have to tell that person you are buying them coffee, the sales associate can do it for you.
Someone did that for me once, it was such a pleasant surprise!
Bob Wescott Says:
July 3rd, 2008 at 1:25 pm
Maybe use good English? My “significant other” is a singularity, not a plurality. I don’t give “them” a kiss, I give her a kiss. When I tell my child how proud I am of him or her, I am telling him or her, not “them.” My granddaughter does not ride “their” bike, she rides her’s. The best thing to do on a Monday is teach your child or children how to communicate with accuracy.
Howard Garfield Says:
July 3rd, 2008 at 1:49 pm
If you see a stranger who looks lost or is looking at a map of your town or area, stop and offer to help him/her find where they are trying to go.
I live in San Francisco, destination of many tourists, particularly foreigners. I have had a chance to do this often, and it always makes me feel good and the strangers are grateful and get a great impression of our hospitality.
PHYLLIS Says:
July 3rd, 2008 at 1:57 pm
HI, AND HAPPY MONDAYS TO EVERYONE!
1.MY FAVOURITE THING TO DO IS LEAVE ENCOURGING NOTES IN THE LADIES ROOM WHERE EVER I GO. KINDNESS PASS IT ON!
2.WHEN I TRAVEL I LEAVE INSPRIRATIONAL BOOKS WHERE SOME ONE WILL FIND THEM.. HOSPITALS ARE GREAT PLACES TO DO THIS!
Tom Says:
July 3rd, 2008 at 2:10 pm
Learn the name of a service attendant (janitor, food service, house keeping, etc.) and address them by name and/or have a conversation with them.
Alice Says:
July 3rd, 2008 at 2:27 pm
Forward this email to your friends and family. It’ll inspire them and brighten their day.
Kim Switnicki Says:
July 3rd, 2008 at 2:33 pm
For your significant other:
Plant a 10 second do-it-like-you-mean-it kiss on them when they least expect it!
Kim Switnickis last blog post..Don’t Worry - Be Happy!
Lance Calisch Says:
July 3rd, 2008 at 2:39 pm
Send someone you love a hearfelt card. It’s easier than you think. Go to http://www.sendoutcards.com/olympia and click “click to send a free card” then follow the audio instructions. No kidding, it’s free.
Ralph Garner Says:
July 3rd, 2008 at 2:42 pm
1) Tell an especially helpful worker in a store or other facility who actually tries to assist you that his/her employer is lucky to have them, and that you were lucky to have crossed trails with them.
2) Tell people-pleasers they can slow down because they are so far ahead of second place.
3) Tell an employee the Ritz-Carlton does not provide better service.
John E. Lamb, Sr. Says:
July 3rd, 2008 at 3:19 pm
One person offered the suggestion below. HOWEVER, this is VERY dangerous and can actually result in HARM to an individual. It is my biggest pet peeve on the highway. It is actually more courteous and safer to OTHER drivers to simply follow the RULES of the road. You will get more respect from other drivers and maybe save a life doing it.
Brandi Jeanne Says:
July 3rd, 2008 at 10:25 am
Stranger - When driving… let the person at the cross walk or the person on the side of the road waiting to cross let them cross the street… let the car out that has been sitting there for a while waiting to turn…
Karen Echols Says:
July 3rd, 2008 at 3:23 pm
If you have a breakdown or loss of service or just a regular company that does jobs for you, call the company after the repair and tell them that they did a good job and you appreciate their work and efforts.
When addressing someone - like a clerk or someone you pass on the street, call them by a name you feel shows respect. For examply, Thank you, Mam” or “Have a nice day sir.”
Jennifer Dodd-Moore Says:
July 3rd, 2008 at 3:44 pm
It’s always good to find new ways to make people feel good! Here’s one that I do from time to time.
When I stop for a cup of coffee at a convenience store I pay for an additional cup for the next person that comes through the line with a cup of coffee. Someone did this for me one time - I never knew who it was - but it inspired me to do the same.
John E. Lamb, Sr. Says:
July 3rd, 2008 at 3:48 pm
Scott,
Sorry to be the pain in the neck guy again but, when offering advice concerning Rules of the Road [see below], you have to be careful not to create problems that can cause HARM. So my positive suggestion for TGIM is simply to show other Drivers courtosy by following the Rules of the Road and not your emotions.
Allow them to pull in front of you on the road - When people are merging, why not be that person to alleviate that high-stress moment for someone else instead of being possessive of “your lane”
Terrie Says:
July 3rd, 2008 at 3:56 pm
Take note of your server’s name at a restaurant and be sure to use it when you thank them for their excellent service. A little recognition goes a long way
Terrie Says:
July 3rd, 2008 at 3:59 pm
I just posted a comment, but then remembered a little thing I have started. Our town of about 18,000 is suffering in this depressed economy because it is largely dependent on construction. So, I started a Pay It Forward movement. I use a service or purchase something from a small business owner that I really can’t afford. I tell them that I am doing it to keep the economy moving and that they have to pay it forward as well. I have even got the local paper to help with this. It could work all over if everyone got involved in keeping the money moving.
Ginny Says:
July 3rd, 2008 at 4:07 pm
1. Give an acknowleding wave and a bright smile in your rear view mirror to be seen by the driver behind you when they let you in, in front of them, in traffic. (How often do other drivers get a wave and a smile? Rarely, usually they get “the finger”)
2. Slow down, roll down your window, smile and say thanks to Highway workers who are doing road repairs, even if it is just the flagman that monitors the stop/go traffic. (Trust me, these people take a tremendous amount of abuse from motorists, and they ARE trying to make the road conditions better - a smile and a thank you might be the only one they get in a week or longer, so it is very valuable).
Annette Kujander Says:
July 3rd, 2008 at 4:29 pm
Hi Scott,
Fabulous list, and wonderful comments.
We are so busy in the today’s world that it is so rare that we give our attention to someone else. It is a true gift if you can devote 5, 10 or 15 minutes to a co-worker, your family member or neighbour.
Annette Kujanders last blog post..Get them involved
Elaine Says:
July 3rd, 2008 at 4:38 pm
Please give more attention to our older citizens before its too late. My Mom and My Husbands Mom lived with us until they passed away. We truly enjoyed them and they never were a bother. My Mom died at 91 from congestive Heart Failure at home and His Mom died of Alzheimers at the age of 92, sadly though we had to put her in a home for Alzheimers patients but visited her every chance we could even though she did not know us but WE knew HER , thats what matters.
Terrie Williams Says:
July 3rd, 2008 at 4:57 pm
If you are outside at night..look up and see the beautiful stars God gave us. Learn a new constellation. See if you remember the ones from your youth. Watch the phases of the moon. Teach your kids to look up. My grandson is two and he loves to star gaze.
Everytime something good happens to me. Like getting all green lights or a beautiful day, or just waking up .. I always say out loud “Thank You Lord, I truly appreciate it”. It always puts a smile not only on my face but in my heart.
When someone tells me to “have a good day” I tell them I will because I don’t like the alternative. At first they look puzzled and then they smile.
All the comments were great. I agree with all of them because I do all of them .Life is a present..appreciate it, love it and most of all enjoy it and..
Thanks Scott…
Nigel Alston Says:
July 3rd, 2008 at 5:11 pm
Smile: Tell them it is AGDAYAG, another good day above ground. Have a great day, unless you have other plans:)
C. Ronald Koons, MD Says:
July 3rd, 2008 at 5:15 pm
When ever at odds/upset/angry/frustrated with another; stop talking and listen to them. Sincerely showing them respect for their inner thoughts lessens the tension, allows for finding common ground, corrections of misunderstanding, and opens avenues for moving forward on a path you both approve.
Shaila Says:
July 3rd, 2008 at 6:08 pm
Give up your seat to a standing passenger who needs it more than you: - In Montreal, if you travel in public transport (Bus or Metro), many times you can see people giving up their seat for a standing passenger, who needs it more.
Cindy Says:
July 3rd, 2008 at 6:14 pm
For your significant other..
Send or bring home flowers, regardless of gender..out of the blue, for no reason. It is a lovely thoughtful surprise.
Or, find a fun card, sign and hide it in a drawer where they least expect it..again a nice unexpected positive find!
This one I loved doing..it is NOT a quickie, but it is definitely worth the effort:
For a child heading off to college:
During the summer prior to them leaving, write out a thought on a piece of paper daily. Something you, as a parent would tell them routinely, something to give them motivation, something wonderful about them or something you would like to advise them about as they venture off into the larger college community. They are to be on strips of paper (like Chinese fortunes in the cookies)…Place them all into an envelope. Then, when you have moved your child into the dorm and right as you are facing that difficult moment of leaving them..you hand them a packet of your thoughts and advise, that they can grab and read anytime they feel homesick or in need of some encouragement or reinforcement. They don’t have to call home, and yet, a part of you is there with them. This was suggested at my eldest daughter’s orientation. I did this for both of my daughters and it was meaningful for all.
Linda L Fraser Says:
July 3rd, 2008 at 6:49 pm
Give everyone you see on Monday’s a great big hug to start your week & theirs out on the right mindset. It works for me.
Maria Says:
July 3rd, 2008 at 6:49 pm
For your children-
Let them splash in the puddles after a really good rainy day! My two older kids still remember this as the best part of growing up. I had a mom that vehemently denied us the pleasure of running through the puddles. She laughed when I told her that she was the reason I allowed them. I have learned that it really is the little things that our children remember most of all, not the expensive vacations or gifts.
Scott- you are right! A simple smile goes a very long way!
Brenda Says:
July 3rd, 2008 at 7:16 pm
I like to do this for my kids:
There is nothing like the feeling of a freshly warmed towel from the dryer when a child gets out of the bath.
Carmen Tipling Says:
July 3rd, 2008 at 7:28 pm
Do something very special for someone over the weekend, and it will put them in the mood to have a better day on Monday.
Donna Says:
July 3rd, 2008 at 8:03 pm
how about volunteering to visit the elderly in nursing homes.
reading a book to a child
Volunteer to deliver christmas gifts and or food hampers to low income families
DONATE blood, you may not know who you are giving to, but it makes a world of difference. Not to mention on how good you feel afterwards.
Help build houses for someone who needs a home
Carry groceries to the car for someone who needs help.
Go the extra mile and do it from the heart, not expecting anything in return.
don’t just do this on Monday’s, everyday, any day.
Brian Leaning-Mizen Says:
July 3rd, 2008 at 8:37 pm
Send people a ‘Happy Monday’ card, just write something positive in it and mail it to arrive on a Monday. something like,” I just felt like telling you to have a great and happy Monday.’ you will be amazed at the regular feedback that this small gesture will bring into their lives and yours. BLM.
Edie B Says:
July 3rd, 2008 at 9:45 pm
When out clothes shopping….
Take all those clothes left in the dressing room, put them back on hangers neatly… carry them out of the dressing room to the appropriate rack.
If you see items that have fallen on the floor, take them off the floor to a counter, or better yet hang them back up also.
Charmaine Says:
July 3rd, 2008 at 11:06 pm
Find something that you admire about the stranger standing next to you in a line up and tell share it with them.
Let the neighbour’s child play with your puppy, with supervision and parent’s permission of course.
SUZANN HAGAN Says:
July 3rd, 2008 at 11:21 pm
SCOTT,
AS ALWAYS - THANX
LOOK PEOPLE IN THE EYE AS YOU PASS THEM ON THE STREET WHETHER WALKING OR IN THE CAR. AND SMILE.
CHEERS - HAVE A HAPPY 4TH AND A GREAT MONDAY!!!
Dieter Roth Says:
July 3rd, 2008 at 11:38 pm
Sneak a note into different places like a pocket, a purse, the car dash, the lunch in the fridge, the toilet paper roll in the bathroom….Let your imagination run wild. All the note has to say is “shmily”. Wait for it …….
“S”ee “H”ow “M”uch “I” “L”ove “Y”ou
Brenda Manz Says:
July 3rd, 2008 at 11:51 pm
Put a note of love in your spouse’s lunch bag or briefcase. Also do the same for you child.
When your spouse is going o a trip, pack a love note or card for each day they will be gone for them to open one a day from you.
Give credit where credit is due. A show of kindness deserves a show of thanks. Never forget to say ‘thank you’ and call people by their first name if you know it, and thank them for the service that they give you. You can even tuck a small thank you note in with payment of your bills.
Say something kind to your spouse daily!
Send or give someone gift certificates to their favourite fast food restaurant for no special reason at all.
Send a note to someone from your past and let them know how their example influenced your life.
Hugs & Sunshine, Brenda
Dhruva Says:
July 4th, 2008 at 12:39 am
Having said quite a bit to stranger, your parents, child co-worker etc I think now is the time to say something to yourself !!!!!!
Look yourself in a mirror and say, I love you 10 times with a breath in and 10 times when you breathe out.
Try to forgive yourself of the hurt that you might have given to any person with a resolve to behave and react differently next time.
Know that we are not perfect but can be perfect friend and perfect partners by accepting each others IMPERFECTION’S.
Have A Nice Day folks all over this universe as this message is from INDIA
Dhruva
Bill Murphy Says:
July 4th, 2008 at 1:05 am
Recently in a fast food restaurant I noticed an older woman with her husband, and she appeared to be suffering severe pain from her hip. I went to her table while her husband was waiting for their order, and I said, “I noticed you were in some pretty serious pain. I hope it will be better soon. Enjoy your dinner.” She smiled and said, “Oh aren’t you sweet? Thank you.”
It seemed to have made her day that a complete stranger noticed her pain and felt badly for it.
Diana Phillips Says:
July 4th, 2008 at 6:18 am
Spot an “older” person and talk to them as if their opinion really makes a difference. Solicit advice from them.
Carol Furrey Says:
July 4th, 2008 at 6:51 am
Pay the toll for the vehicle in back of you at the toll gate.
Gopi Says:
July 4th, 2008 at 7:35 am
Before starting my day at work Ii made it a habit to go and wish everyone at their desk. This works extremely well when the number of your colleagues are less. I wish 30 people everyday. It takes me just 10 mins. I love doing it and everyone at my work place.
Barbara Lockyer Says:
July 4th, 2008 at 8:46 am
This is for someone, who might be sick at home, in the hospital, hospice … anywhere. Once my good friend was in the hospital for some testing (years ago). One thing that I did, which she told me later meant so much, was that I came and sat with her–took a needle work project with me to do–and just sat by her bedside. I was there to talk if she felt like it but there was no pressure to do so. She told me it meant so much, just having me be there. Too many sick people feel that have to be at there best when people visit …... it puts strain on them in an already stressful situation.
Barbara Lockyer Says:
July 4th, 2008 at 8:49 am
Send a card to say hello … this is something I did for my choir group, years ago, when people missed rehearsals. It made me feel so good to have one of the members tell me that it meant so much to him that I thought of him … this doesn’t have to have a special occasion … just drop a card to say I love you and am thinking about you … we all like personal mail, especially in this day of everything being online!
Barbara Lockyer Says:
July 4th, 2008 at 8:53 am
Stop and tell the person serving you … in any capacity … that you appreciate their service … like the girl in the busy wholesale store, trying to wait on you and 6 other people with problems with their checkouts. She is doing the job of several people. Instead being annoyed that you have to wait, give her a kudo for trying to serve each one and give her a brief pause to smile and refresh. It may make all the difference in the rest of her day.
Barbara Lockyer Says:
July 4th, 2008 at 8:57 am
Always keep in mind something that I read when I was very young…”the heart that gives gathers”. It personifies the Golden Rule. The more you do for others, the more you receive. When I have roses or other flowers blooming, I always take them to work to share…and sometimes just hand one to someone on the elevator with me … it is always a welcome surprise and it cost you nothing. It might be someone you have never seen before … that makes it even nicer.
Barbara Lockyer Says:
July 4th, 2008 at 9:06 am
One of the most uplifting things I have experienced lately came from a total stranger, whom I met online. In our first correspondence, the thing she said to me that really felt great~~”you have a gorgeous smile!” Regardless of the circumstances, anyone appreciates receiving a nice compliment/friendly smile. It will lift you up and the person who receives it! Keep in mind, someone with a traumatic facial injury or anomaly would probably love to hear something like that. We don’t feel good about ourselves when we are sick or having a stressful time in our lives.
Nanci Hartland Says:
July 4th, 2008 at 9:29 am
I sent my parents flowers on my birthday and thanked them for my extraordinary life. I also sent my in-laws flowers on his birthday and thanked them for him ….…
When my children ’suddenly’ became teen-agers and the sharing, laughing and talking went down to a minimum, and they were so ’serious’ I had to come up with some new ideas to keep them close. I would start water balloon fight as soon as I saw them with stockpiles ready for everyone. I short-sheeted their beds with cheerios and pine cones and they immediately knew they had been out of line and it reined them back in without harsh words and they knew they were “Grounded”. Then we would talk about it. I began dry cooked spaghetti food fights. Outdoor jell-o fights. Snowball fights. The effort was worth the shared laughter. Instead of asking them how was school today, as “Fine” was such a final answer, I shared my day first. Whatever the downs or ups were, I shared. At first, I only got silence and after a few days, they finally began to open up and really tell me about their day. It changed our relationship for those last few years of high school before they went off on their own. They still share.
Whenever I see the many men and women all over this military town in uniform, I say, “Thank You. All of you and your families are in my prayers every day.” As I salute, I then bring my hands to my heart and then fold my hands in prayer. So they get a visual as well. It always brings a large smile and even sometimes a hug.
Thanks Scott. You brighten up all my days, way beyond Mondays!
Gelia Says:
July 4th, 2008 at 9:50 am
Children: when your young child does what you have asked her/him to do, say thank you. This encourages them and sets an example for their own behaviour. Works well for co-workers also.
Yasmeen Says:
July 4th, 2008 at 11:32 am
Here are some suggestions to your list.
1. Buy your co-worker a bagel and drink. My co-workers and I go down to the StarBucks for breakfast daily.
2. Let your sister borrow your favourite outfit that she likes so much.
3. Make dinner, only on Mondays and give your hubby a break.
JUDY H. Says:
July 4th, 2008 at 1:23 pm
IF YOU NOTICE A RETARDED OR DISABLED PERSON, GIVE THEM A COMPLIMENT ON ANYTHING THEY ARE TRYING TO DO. IT ALWAYS MAKES THEM FEEL GREAT AND US AS WELL!
THE LIST IS WONDERFUL, WE ALL HAVE TO TRY HARDER TO MAKE THE WORLD A MORE GENTLE PLACE.
THANKS AND HAPPY 4TH OF JULY! BEST, JUDY H.
Bette Says:
July 4th, 2008 at 4:45 pm
1. Listen to the message at your church, synagogue, etc. and commit to contact at least one person you were reminded of during the service- and reflect your learning.
2. Make a conscious contact with someone your parent’s age (mine are both dead) and INVEST a moment or an hour with them-telling them how special their perspective is in your life.
vaani Says:
July 4th, 2008 at 7:38 pm
bless you
Gina Q. Says:
July 4th, 2008 at 11:57 pm
To a child: Always hug them even when they let you down–hugs are forgiving in a child’s eyes. And, sometimes let “them have the last word. They need validation too!!
Mark LoPresti Says:
July 5th, 2008 at 4:08 pm
Significant other: Leave them a good morning note saying “Have a blessed day at work and you will miss them today”.
Tina Says:
July 5th, 2008 at 8:45 pm
We leave our mail man drinks and goodies in our mail box for him. We put the little red flag up, so he thinks it is just a pick up… and surprise ! It makes him simile all the time !
How about sending a hand written note of thanks or a thinking about you.
Awesome idea’s everyone! Smiles to all!
Margaret Says:
July 5th, 2008 at 11:48 pm
When someone needs to “take cuts” in front of you while driving on the road, let them (especially if they are courteous enough to use their blinker!)
